A new life

A few days ago we received word from the US immigration that they are revoking our approval of our marriage. Since they do not approval our marriage, it voids out everything we have been doing for the last 5 years. It has been a very hard couple of days, I mostly am angry! We have spent so much time and money trying to get my husband here the right way, the legal way and with no such luck. They have taken 5 years away from us. The chance for a family. Instead of just coming out in the beginning and telling us we are not letting Pakistanis into the US right now they dragged it along to milk every penny and then some we had. We would get approved just for them just to take away something else. We would file more, doing everything they asked and be approved then all of a sudden that was taken from us. Our marriage was approved back in 2007 as a legit marriage through the eyes of the US government. Now that our hardship was approved they didn't know what to do so they took it away. I swear the only way you can really get into the United States is to sneak in and fight it from here. If you are already in the States they work with you. Our Immigration system needs more then to be reformed! It needs to get out of the hands of people that like to play God and go into a business that have to compete between the two. Maybe if they were under competition with another company it would be done in a fast and fair time period.
I look forward to an adventure with my husband in another country. To be able to have the time to reconnect and start our own little family. Yes little because it will just be the 2 of us and hopefully a dog. As waiting for the government to let my husband over I am to old now to be a mom. The sad part about moving so far away is missing my family and knowing my family will never meet my husband. I just hope that after giving up my life here in the states and moving half way around the world they will let him fly back for a visit. He could not come visit during this process at all, because he was now married to an American Citizen and they didn't trust him to return. America was made up of immigrants. We came from all over the world to make us America. Unless of course you are a Native American. They are really the only "true" Americans. I think we forget as we let others into this nation that at one point one of our own family members went through the same thing. We have become a nation of hate and control. We are racist to anyone new coming in. I hear all the time here in Utah. " We are being invaded with Mexicans". It makes me so sad and mad! Why can't we open our arms and welcome diversity and learn from everyone. The Mexican or Hispanic culture is wonderful. They are very big on family! I love their food and grateful I am among them. I am grateful for all the different race and religion that surrounds me. They give you a change, something to learn about and grow. We can not judge all by one bad apple. Not all Muslims are terrorist! Not all Mexicans are illegal! Not all Mormons are honest! But all Politicians are in for themselves. I asked for help from so many of them and there was only one that said yes. That was Senator Bennett who was pushed out of office. My hope for America is to become a more caring , loving and accepting nation. We do not have it all right! Our own government is a mess! Why do we feel we have the right to tell others how to run theirs. Let's work on our own first. I wish everyone that is dealing with Immigration the best. Find you a good lawyer and PRAY! I prayed and prayed but I really think that my prayers were answered but not is the way I necessarily thought they should go. I'm sure there is a reason I am to move across the world to be with my husband in a foreign country where I do not speak the language. I am very excited to learn a new culture and to dive into their cuisine. I also think God felt it was time for "me". As much as I love my mom and the salon, I have been pulled in so many different directions that I have forgotten to take care of myself. I have had a flare up with my disease, major headaches and have not been exercising like I should. I have a hard time at saying no, so I push on and get things done. I hope I can learn to take care of myself and learn that if I am a mess so is my life. May my new journey be a good one. I know so many have problems with me moving to either Karachi or UAE. I will be fine. My husband is a good man and will take good care of me. Every where in the world is problems. As long as you are smart and know your limits you can be safe.